MEET JOHO DAD GUY BOWER



Before..

Just before I became a father, I was just another creative guy, married and living a very un-child friendly life. When I was 18 years old I used to tell my mother I wanted to be a dad when I was 21 and that I didn't want to be an old dad. I was adamant that that was my plan and it would happen somehow but it didn't because that's just not what happens in the 21st century. 

I also never really thought about whether I’d be a good dad or not, I just knew I could do it and that it must be do-able because my dad had made it work. We all think we’ll be better parents until we become parents ourselves. You'll be awesome and your kids will just be awesome is what we all tell ourselves, right? Growing up I thought, "I'll never say no to my children. What ever they want, they'll get". When it came to the money, I thought, "Kids can't cost that much: milk comes out the boob and nappies can't be THAT expensive." What?? Apparently, newborns can go through 10-16 nappies a day.



After..

The era of the 60's dad who did nothing is over. I'm a modern dad. I'm hands on and not at all scared to change a 3kg number-two nappy. I grew up in a home where my mother was a midwife and she ran a creche from our home, which exposed me to a lot of babies over the years - which I think helped a lot. I helped a lot as a kid and I knew my way around a baby. Crying baby: dummy, bottle, nappy – those were the rules. So, my first impressions were that it couldn't be that hard. 

We were the first of our friends to have a baby human. We were the leaders of our pack, so we had no peers to ask for advice or learn from, which I sometimes think was better. Less mixed messages and advice meant it was easier to learn as we went. 

I was really excited when our first daughter was born, and leapt straight into fatherhood. We were really lucky and had a golden child as a first born (yes, we were a little spoilt). She slept through from 6 weeks (don't hate me). We even took Olivia on date nights and she slept in her chair next to restaurant tables, we were just short of taking her to the movies with us. 

When we had our second daughter, Paige, things got real. No more easy ride, no sleeping through from 6 weeks old. If you have more than one child, you'll know what I'm talking about. Yes, the whole experience seems easier, as you know what to expect, but you now have two little bodies to look after, now to make sure you don't mess them up...

With two children, you have two different personalities to deal with: one daughter the girly-princess-ballerina and the other the outdoorsy-bicycle-rider. Sharing your time and making sure you give each of them your attention is hard. But coming home from work to their smiling faces is the best thing ever. 


Now...

We have two really awesome girls that are very different and very awesome in their own ways. They both test our limits on a daily basis and they both know how to get their way. They are no longer babies and now we have these little people that are learning and moulding themselves everyday. They learn from us and from the people around them. It's so different from babies in nappies who cry when they're hungry or need a nappy change. 

I flipping love being a dad and watching my little girls grow everyday. You won't believe how fast it happens. The inquisitive, questioning mind of a six-year-old is so cool. I really don't think I was as clever as Olivia is at 5 or 6. 

The one thing that freaks me out is schooling and where and what they should do and learn. Yes, you get to choose or hope your child gets into the school you want her to go to. But is it the right one? Will they do/learn all the stuff they need to, to handle the wild world when they're bigger?

Parenting Advice

Show your children as much of your country as possible. It's amazing how much they absorb from interacting 

1 comments:

  1. I know what you mean. My bestessays essay service review seemed to pay the bills quite well initially. All that changed after I had kids. Everything just got a whole lot more expensive.

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