MEET YOLISA PASIPANODYA


Tell us about the day your sons were born.

My first born, Tungamirai David Pasipanodya was born on Tuesday the 13th November 2007. It was a beautiful morning, full of laughter with our OBGYN. I did not feel anxious but was excited about the birth of my first born son.





Before he was born we wrote a list of names that we could potentially name him. I believe that naming a child is a way of giving him character. So when we named him, Tungamirai (meaning "the one who leads" in Shona and David (meaning "the beloved of The Lord") it was with a consciousness that he was going to be an influencer and a mighty man of God. This was already evident in Grade one. His teacher says he is the most loving, caring and influential child in his class. Tunga and I share a special bond as only a mother and her first born son can. He is an early-riser just like me. We are always out of bed by 5am. We share at least 30 minutes of quality time together before everyone else in the house wakes up. This is our time to connect. I love it!


My second son was born on Tuesday, 17th November 2009 - exactly two years and four days after his older brother. Again I felt no anxiety but excitement that I was yet again giving birth to a beautiful boy. We named him Tirivashe Daniel. Tirivashe means "we are of God" in Shona. His second name Daniel is the name of a great man of God who sat calmly with lions because of his faith. Tiri is a special child. He loves making people laugh and loves performing (singing and dancing). He especially loves singing gospel songs. Being an ex-dancer myself, we have our special moments where we sing and dance together. We make up routines and perform them together. 



Work/life balance advice.

I am a director and head up the Public Sector Division at a PR firm called Meropa Communications. It's a demanding job with long hours and a bit of travel. I head up a division of nine people with various government communications accounts. As a director I also assisting in directing the company's progress by ensuring that all accounts are on budget and I'm constantly seeking new business.

I would never be able to do this demanding job and be a mother without the support of my very loving and understanding husband who often helps with making lunch boxes, bathing and dropping off the kids at school. 

We also have a wonderful helper (Moreblessing Chihota). She is patient and always joyful with the boys. They enjoy her company even though she disciplines them and gives them chores to do.

I love my job and love the idea of changing people's lives through the formulation of excellent communication strategies and implementing them. I work long hours but always ensure that I cook for my husband and children, even if it means that I have to wake up early to cook before doing the school run and going to work.


Adjusting to motherhood has been …

Surprisingly rewarding. The first year of motherhood can be overwhelming but once your kids are growing up, attending crèche and school and becoming their own characters you realise that you are responsible in raising responsible citizens who are the future of this country and this world.



Whats been the most surprising aspect of motherhood?

I am fiercely protective of my boys. Whether it is against crime, teachers, doctors. I always pray and seek guidance from the Holy Spirit and when something doesn't feel right I immediately pull my kids away. Even when a doctor tells me to give my son an antibiotic. If I feel that this is not correct I will seek a different type of solution. My first born has allergies and I refused to use conventional medication. I take him to a homeopath who has helped us manage his allergies. Now he no longer takes medication that makes him drowsy.


I attribute the feeling of fierce protection to motherly instinct. It's only when one becomes a mother that you become aware of this instinct. It has also made me become best friends with my mom. I now understand how she must have felt everyday when I walked to the train station to catch a train to school at the age of seven with a friend who was the same age as me.



How would you describe your home? 

My home is a safe haven for learning, playing and development for my boys. It's a place where they can dream, play, fantasise and just be boys. 

We live in a guarded complex where all the children and helpers play together in the street every afternoon. There is plenty for them to do (ride bikes, play cricket, soccer, climb trees). 
No television or video games are allowed during the week so they get a chance to play outside, read and build with their Lego blocks.

My helper is very organized so at least the house is not in chaos with toys everywhere. We have taught the boys to clean up and pack away after playing.

The boys have their chores which include making their beds, sorting laundry and helping with making sandwiches.







Your Parenting Philosophy? 

My parenting philosophy is to raise my kids to be responsible for their actions and to love people and the earth as they would want to be loved.



What do you want most for children?  

I want both my boys to dream big and be big whether it's in their careers, hobbies...whatever they want to do. They should not be afraid to fail. They must have the resilience to keep going.





Parenting advice.

My mother told me recently that a mom's greatest challenge is to love her kids enough to let them go and grow. You raise your kids for the world, not for you to keep for your own pleasure.

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Photography by Nandi Dlepu (creator of JOHO MOMS)

1 comments:

  1. Tunga and Tiri are lucky to have you as their mommy. May God continue to bless you and the family #supermom

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